Monday, January 19, 2015

Taking a blogging break this week.



I am going to take a little blog break.  I am heading down to Florida to help my mom move into a senior apartment.

She was on a waiting list for 6 months and got called that they have an apartment ready for her.

I am going down to help her make this transition from living in her home to living in a one bedroom senior apartment.

My mom has been widowed for about 5 years and these have been tough financial years for her.

Her husband lost his battle with Alzheimers Disease about 5 years ago.  They were snow birds for many years and had a home in Michigan and then a small home for the winters in Florida.

My mom cared for her hubby at home until his Alzheimers got to the point that they had to move him into an Alzheimer's facility.  In order to have good care for him and have him in a good place my mom had to sell their home in Michigan after they went through all of their savings to help pay for his care.

It is so sad when seniors get a horrible disease like Alzheimer's and have to go through their life savings and sell their home to get good care.

After my mom's husband died she moved to the small Florida home with my 98 year old grandmother to live.  After my grandmother passed a few years ago and my mom no longer had my grandmother's social security along with her's to keep up with the expenses of a  house it became increasingly harder for her financially to keep up her home and all the costs that go along with owning a home.

Terry and I have been financially helping her out with expenses over this past year but it has become a burden on us too.  So the decision was made to have her move into more affordable senior living.  Her home is up for sale and we are praying it will sell quickly.

In the meantime Terry and I are heading down to help her move into her new place and hopefully help her make this transition a little easier.

I will decorate and make this place as sweet and homey as I can so she will enjoy and feel comfy in her new apartment.

This has been really hard on her to make this transition but she also knows in her heart this is the best thing all the way around.

So I will be off blog land this week as I help my mom.  At least it will be warmer weather in Florida than here in Chicago.  Just wish I was going to stick my toes in the sand but instead will be painting, shopping for decor and hanging curtains and unpacking boxes.  I am praying I can work some magic on this tiny apartment to make it warm and cozy for her and her sweet dog Buttons.

Hoping for safe travels and a good and easy move for my mom.  Prayers please that my mom will have an easy transition as this part of her journey heads in a new direction.  It is hard at 82 to make these kind of  life transitions.

Talk to you all when I return next weekend.
Please check in on Saturday I have a new Spotlight scheduled to go up with another fabulous blogger for you to get to know on a personal level.

Thank you to all of you that will leave me a comment, prayer for my mom and best wishes.  I normally love to answer all of your comments with an email back from me, but with being off Blogland I will say thank you now.  Your prayers and sweet visits along with sweet and caring comments are so appreciated and I thank you all.

Have a wonderful week.
Kris
:)

60 comments:

  1. Kris, I'll be praying for yours & Terry's safe travels and manageable transition. If anybody can work this kind of magic in one week, it would be you two. I can certainly visualize your mom loving whatever you come up with.

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  2. Bless her heart, and yours and Terry's as well. Sending loving thoughts with you to Florida.
    xoxo,
    Lin

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  3. Bless your heart for helping your mom. Please send our love to her and prayers for a seamless transition. God bless!!!

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  4. Safe travels and I know you will make her new home comfy for her. Our mom's are the same age.

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  5. God Bless. I will pray for a safe journey and an easy transition.

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  6. Kris, Wishing you and Terry a safe trip. I will keep your mother in my prayers. I think she will be able to adjust. Blessings to all, xoxo,Susie

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  7. I will be praying for all of you as you make the transition......
    Enjoy the special time with her.
    ~Des

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  8. It's good that you will be there for her. xoox

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  9. Good luck with everything this week and I know you will make her place look beautiful! Take care.

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  10. Love and prayers to you and your sweet mama dear Kris... I know with your magic touch you will make her little apartment so cosy and nice for her... you are such a good loving and caring daughter... xoxo... Julie Marie

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  11. Keeping you and Terry in my thoughts as you help your Mom move into her senior living apartment. Residents quickly embrace and Mom and Buttons will feel home. All your (peeps) know you will have the apartment cozy and pretty in record time.
    xoxo,
    Vera

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  12. Safe travels and have fun decorating!

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  13. My goodness. You have so much on your plate right now. I can relate to so much of what you're saying. We have just started the process of looking for a home to buy that will enable us to have my mother come live with us. She has no financial plan for her future. She's only in her sixties but has health issues so she hasn't been able to work for many years and disability just doesn't cover much of anything. I'm sure you will make your Mom's new home beautiful for her and her sweet Buttons. She's so blessed to have a daughter that cares so much about her!! xoxo

    ~ Wendy
    http://Crickleberrycottage.blogspot.com/

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  14. Have a safe trip and get your mom all settled. I know these types of things are hard decisions to make. Prayers for you that it all transitions smoothly. XO

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  15. Best wishes to you and your Mom, Kris! She is blessed to have you.

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  16. Kris, saying a prayer for your mom and for you and your husband as you help her with the transition. xo.

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  17. Hugs and prayers. I can't wait to see what you do with her apartment.
    It is so sad that nursing care is so expensive. My husband's mother is in a nursing home. She has dementia and is miserable. She cries loudly all the time. You can't touch her as she will get really mad. They try to rub some sort of cream on her to calm her. My husband was trying to calm her by gentle rubbing her hand and well............she slugged him. Not funny to him but it was to me. You have to see the humor or you can't stand it. My father had Alzheimers for 10 years.
    I think your mother will be happy with others around her. I wish that my mother would move into something with less maintenance. She is going to be 88.
    I forgot to add that my MIL's savings will be up this month. Now, she will go on Medicaid. They were very simple people and saved quite a bit. Before my FIL died he had taken care of everything she would need. She has been in the nursing home for about 4 years.
    Good luck, take some time to do something fun. HUGS

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  18. Praying for safe travels and a smooth transition for your mom. You are such a wonderful daughter to help out like this. I know without a doubt that you'll be able to make her new place a nice, cozy home. Hugs to you! :)

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  19. You are a good daughter to do this for your mom! I can only imagine how difficult this will be for your mom. People at that age don't like a lot of change. Sounds like she's doing the right thing though. Maybe she'll make some new friends too! So sad to hear that her finances were crippled by her husbands Alzheimer's disease. I heard that can be an expensive disease! My husband and his sister are still taking care of their mom the best they can. Trying to avoid putting her in a home. It's so expensive! It has been a burden on them though. She had a stroke 8 yrs ago and has needed care ever since. Sucks getting old!

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  20. I know you will be able to work your magic on your mother's new home and I am sure she appreciates having such a wonderful daughter. I hope all goes well and that she feels safe and warm in her new home. Hugs.

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  21. This is a challenging time in our stage of life, helping our parents who are facing so many challenges of their own. I trust your mom's move goes smoothly and she quickly adjusts to her new life.
    Mary Alice

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  22. Prayers for your mom as she starts another chapter in her life...and prayers for you as you help your mom moving into her new place.
    ~Cindy

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  23. Wishing you a safe trip.I' ll pray for a new start for your mother.
    Kisses
    Alessandra

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  24. Praying for safe travel, peace and comfort for your Mom in this transition. It's a whole new world without your mate.

    Judy

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  25. Oh Kris, I have been where you are now, it is not easy. Prayers, hugs and positive thoughts to you and your sweet mom and a hope that you do get your toes in the sand...just for a short bit.

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  26. Hello Kris,
    I hope all goes well with you and your Mom. You are a good daughter to help her out and I'm sure she loves you so. My parents went through the same thing when my Mom could no longer care for my Dad. They used all their savings and my Mom had some real financial difficulties. She is gone now but I'm at peace knowing I helped her in every way that I could. God Bless you and your Mom.

    hugs
    Sissie

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    1. Thanks Sissie,
      It is sad that seniors that worked their whole life for retirement have to spend the savings and sell their homes for the care that is not paid for by insurance. I am sorry this happened with your mom too. Something is really wrong in this country when our parents because of a disease like Alzheimer's have to lose everything. Just sad.
      Kris

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  27. Good luck Kris. I'll be thinking of you. x Julie

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  28. Take care Kris and enjoy your time with your Mom. I know you will make her apartment a cozy home for her. stay safe in your travels.

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  29. safe travels my friend. i will be thinking of you and your dear maman. sending prayers and blessings.

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  30. I have no doubt that you will make your mom's apartment beautiful and comfortable Kris. It's what you do the best my dear! Be safe and enjoy this time with your mom.
    sending hugs...

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  31. I am so sorry this happened to your Mom. Much the same thing happened to my parents when Mom got Alzheimers except we did get to keep the farm. This type of thing is so sad but she is so lucky to have you come help her move and decorate. I am sure the apartment will be adorable. Nancy

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  32. Take good care and travel safely. If it is any comfort, my grandmother moved to assisted living at 94 and absolutely loved it there. I hope that will be the case for your mother!

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  33. i hope your mom finds the new home comfortable and cozy, kris:) the life change will be hard, but, how wonderful she has you to help her through it all! have a safe trip!

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  34. Such a hard time for you mom, but I know you'll make her feel better! I also know if you are decorating, it will be fabulous! Enjoy your time with your mom and some sunshine!

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  35. Transition at that age is not easy. My mother went through something similar. Thank goodness she has you to help her.

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  36. How awful for you all that your poor Mum has been reduced to this situation. However, I feel sure that you will make wherever she lives into a wonderful home Kris, you have such wonderful taste and ideas. Wishing you and Terry a safe journey there and back, and your Mum every happiness in her new home.

    Hugs

    Judi in the UK

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  37. Give your Mother my love and tell her I have prayed and will continue to pray for her. I do not know what God has in store for her in this part of her journey, but I know it is good. You and Terry take care and be safe.

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  38. Hi Kris
    Praying now for your Mom, to make this transition in her life. I just know you will work your magic on her new apartment and make it amazing.. Enjoy your time with your Mom this week
    deezie

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  39. I understand completely, my husband died 8 years ago of Alzheimer's and that is why at my age I am working part time and doing etsy and flea markets. Medical cost for this care is extremely high. So far I have been able to keep my house expenses up( fingers crossed).
    So glad to hear your Mom has a sweet little dog Buttons, that is so a comfort and joy having a dog.
    After you fix up her little senior apartment it will be adorable for her.
    So glad you and your husband can do this for her. I never would have thought at age 59 I would be by myself the rest of my life. Struggling after having such a good job all my life.
    Tell your Mom HI and we are all cheering for her and her newest adventure

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  40. Bless you Kris and your Mother. I went through this with my Grandmother who passed away from Alzheimer. It is such a sad illness and totally eats at you heart string and pocket book. May your trip be a great blessing to you and your mother. Be safe. Your situation will be in my prayers. XX Jo

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  41. Bless you and your husband for helping your mom! My prayers go out for all of you. Hugs,

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  42. Blessings and prayers for you all. I know some of how your mother has felt. I also lost my husband 2 years ago after a 10 year bout of him being disabled due to physical conditions and 6 years of it with frontal lobe dementia. All of our savings and retirement fund were completely depleted and I also had to sell our home and move into a manufactured home. It is awful to face financial difficulties in your senior years. If it were not for SS widows benefits I would be homeless. Many seniors have had circumstances change and make their senior years more difficult than they had expected but there is no help out there. Sad.

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  43. I'll keep you in my thoughts during those difficult times. I know you can work your magic to turn the apartment into a cosy home.

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  44. Kris, your mother is so lucky to have you to help her transition to her new place. I know you'll work your magic and she'll feel like a princess in her castle! I hope everything goes well and her home sells quickly to lessen the financial burden. Maybe you'll find a few hours here and there to enjoy the Florida sunshine!

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  45. Hi Kris, I am definitely praying for your travels as well as the move for your mom. I've seen this transition so many times with friends in recent years. Your mom is very blessed to have you to help. I know you will make her place warm and comfy! Try to take a few minutes to relax and enjoy a little warm weather while there! God Bless you all, safe travels! Blessings, Cindy xoxo

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  46. Evening Kris, My prayers are with you and your Mother.....I know you love to decorate so make the most of it and try to get those toes into some sand! Roxie

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  47. Praying for you all. I think your mom will be very happy and cozy in her new little stress free home. I'm sure you will make lovely.

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  48. Oh, Kris, I know this is a hard time for you and your mom. You will make a beautiful home for her and I wish you safe travels and good times for your mom..Judy

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  49. I am so sorry that your mother is going through all of this and I hope that you and Terry are able to deal with everything quickly and easily for your mother.

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  50. Kris, I hope everything goes well. That's such a hard transition!

    We've been going through a very similar situation with my mom. We had an apartment lined up for my mom and it was perfect. Darn if she didn't jump off without telling us and rent a house!! It costs much more and leaves her in a neighborhood with nobody that she knows. It would have been so great for her to be in a complex with built in friends, activities, and transportation. Oh well... baby steps in life. :)

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  51. Kris I hope the move is going well and that your Mom is transitioning well. I remember all too well going through this with my Mom after my Dad passed in 2005. It took a little bit but she soon got to know a lot of the ladies in her seniors apartment complex and joined them for coffee every morning. We found she was less isolated being there. We've since moved her twice as her care needs progressed with Alzheimers. You are in my thoughts!

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  52. Bless your heart Kris ! Prayers for your mom and you ! Hoping all goes well !
    Hugs
    Cathy Thompson

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  53. I know how your mom feels and I am so sorry for her to go thru this. I will be facing this soon. I have picked up a little job picking up a 9 year old boy from school until his mom gets out of her teaching job. I am also taking in the ladies niece - renting her a room. I want to stay in my home as long as possible, so I understand I know that you will make her apartment beautiful. Good luck on the move and enjoy the warm weather there. Lots of prayers for your sweet mom.

    Mary




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  54. Kris, I'm a little behind in blogland. I hope your week went well and you got your Mom all squared away in her new home. You are such a wonderful daughter! I know you made it all beautiful for her. I look forward to hearing how everything went. I'll definitely check in tomorrow for the Saturday spotlight.

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  55. Say hi to ur mom for me. U r a wonderful daughter. Hope things run smoothly during this transition.

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  56. Safe journey and I know your mom will be thrilled with you at the helm of making her new place a most wonderful place to live!...

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